Entries from October 2012

How to reduce resistance

October 31st, 2012 · No Comments

When you meet opposition and differences of opinion – there’s a tendency to push. Some people are overt about their pushing: Insisting they are right (“It’s obvious that . . . “) Framing their opinion as fact (“The fact of the matter is . . .“) Criticizing directly (“That’s a ridiculous proposal . . .”) […]

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Why Giving Advice Fails: The Yes-But Rut

October 24th, 2012 · No Comments

Have you ever fallen into the “Yes, but . . .” rut? (I have many, many times). It starts like this: your colleague or friend says, “I’ve got this problem. I’d like your advice.” You nod. They explain the situation. You ask a few more questions and then give them your best advice. As you […]

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Where do you keep your vision?

October 17th, 2012 · No Comments

Almost three decades ago I was talking with a senior executive about the value of building shared vision with his team and stakeholders. He held up his hand, “I’ve already been through the vision process with my team.” I was interested and asked him to share the vision with me. He turned away and shuffled […]

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Every flood starts with a drop of rain.

October 10th, 2012 · No Comments

Every flood begins with a drop of rain. The big problem that’s consuming your time, attention, energy, and resources today – started small. Before it became a serious issue, there were hints, signs, and suggestions – that something was wrong. But these indicators were small. Not earth shattering. Not disastrous. And being small, they were […]

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Are you on fire?

October 3rd, 2012 · 2 Comments

Exercising leadership is hot. Why? Because, choosing leadership means stepping into the fire. I’m talking about an inner fire, not the line of fire – where people shoot their complaints, accusations, and anger at you. The line of fire is secondary. Other’s anger, upset, and accusations – as challenging as they can be – are […]

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